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I'm not so sure that Glenn's problem had anything to do with cultural differences.  I think it was more likely that that was an excuse unwittingly and innocently offered by Glenn and thankfully and gratefully grasped by the carer because the carer was already overwhelmed with the calls that he/she had to make.  There will be service users who have no visitors or family at all who will be calling on them and the idea that there is someone there to check that the service user will get some supper/isn't collapsed on the floor etc will have been a relief.  The allocation of time per person is very often not enough (15 min) and if someone along the line has a problem then that will be overrun - especially if the rotas are already unworkable.We were horrified by the state of the social care system.  It is not something that you understand at all until you try and use it.  "The District Nurse"  can be 10 or more different people and they could never tell us when they would be visiting.  So one of us would have to wait in ALL day.  Of course we are grateful that they exist - it is just that you need to be able to be flexible and reorganise other areas of your life completely to deal with this and help reduce the stress. If you are there you can make sure that any other queries are answered as well as knowing the discussion that took place.  The notes more recently were made by the District Nurse on computer and can be available if you ask for them from the office because generally it will be in the 15 min when you popped out for a pint of milk that they call!  They also used to call out the day when they next would be visiting as they walked out the door and it took a while for us (under stress) to understand that there was a routine to this unless an emergency.  There was no introductory leaflet or info! Putting in wi-fi in our parent's home made a lot of difference as work could then be done whilst there.Friends visiting are absolutely wonderful because some time to yourself is needed to think straight and a walk in the park can help you to collect your thoughts.  I managed to become Vitamin D deficient - currently topical in the press - which didn't help any of us.Have you looked at the website for the Stroke Association?  Might they be of any help to you?The problem with the care system is that you may find that the next care company is the same.  Hopefully you'll find some good help.  Kim Rugg on this website was enquiring about local carers/care companies recently.

Philippa Bond ● 3700d

This is very worrying but sadly is often the case with many care companies working within the care system in this country right now.  It is a disgusting state of affairs which ALL political parties should be ashamed of - AND should be working together to solve.Some more companies have recently refused to work for Councils any longer because the rates they pay are so low. Ealing Council (Julian Bell) has said that LBE did not need to put Council Tax up this year (the amount that the Government will allow it to be specifically for Care Services) because he said LBE has sufficient funds available. Perhaps that is not the case?  Or is it? Councils are very strapped for cash still because of austerity measures and a growing number of elderly needing care and care companies tender for the work. The workers now have to be paid the new minimum wage and should also by law be paid for the travelling time between service users.  The rotas I have seen for workers (not LBE) show several service users listed at the same time for varying lengths of time with no time allowed to travel between different homes and are totally unworkable within the time.  This can be a big problem. You also never know what time the carer will arrive whatever the time allocated.You will find a lot of info and articles on the dire state of social care if you Google it.You will find some brilliantly dedicated carers and some complete space wasters.  Some of them are teenagers because they don't have to be paid so much but nowadays some of those are incapable of even making a cup of tea or a sandwich. This is exasperating to someone of an older generation who has run their own home and has an idea of what needs to be done with a few questions and just assessing the situation when they walk in the door.  They have to fill in "their book" to show they have been there but they may not read it first to see what they have to do or to liaise with whoever called last - as they are always short of time...  No shows were a problem.  Make sure that your mother is able to call you or someone else calls on her as well so that you can be sure that her visits take place. I'm afraid that they need monitoring.  If you can find a cleaner that you can trust then this person may be able to provide more flexible and more continuity of care than a care company - although not personal care.I really hope that you are luckier than we were.  We found the constant monitoring we had to do exhausting (we were not in the same borough) although the initial 6 week free reablement care several years earlier had been brilliant.

Philippa Bond ● 3700d