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Blimey.......lots of post on this thread and I've only just spotted it.I too lived on a really rough Council estate and my family still live there (some of them).  It's horrid.  Less so when I was there but it still had the makings of perpetual crime.  Many of these families (not all, I stress, not all) are codependent and live in a cycle of addiction and codependency.  Many of the offenders we have in our prisons (and those not caught or prosecuted) come from abusive childhoods.  My heart goes out to them as children.  As adults too I feel for them, but they need to learn there are consequences and they have real choices as adults, unlike when they were children.  Society too needs to be "protected" from these offenders.Giving offenders telephones to stay in touch with their codependent/addictive/criminal families probably isn't a good idea, although I can see that young offenders are a very different story.  Perhaps giving criminals access to a telephone to call a therapist, a mentor or some such person would be a great idea, but I'm not sold on this as a "cure" for anything as it really doesn't address the problem at all.  The problem at its root cause is a sickness.  Throwing telephones at it isn't going to cure it.The cure?  It takes many forms I think but one of them is to address the codependent type families in our society - firstly by education of this "illness" and support to overcome/heal it.  Secondly - ownership.  When people own things and own them through "earning" them or working for them (not necessarily through being employed) they take care of them.  I really don't think that selling council homes was a bad thing........the bad thing is that they weren't replaced.  I think selling council properties has turned quite a few families away from crime.  I know this personally and have seen it happen close up many times.  This may not make a lot of sense.....I am tired, but wanted to share my thoughts on a subject I am passionate about and think I have a real understanding of.  One can feel compassion for a criminal and at the same time be firm and set boundaries.  After all, most codependent families are boundary-less.

Angela White ● 5475d